the baby who is picked up when they fuss from day one is the baby who will learn love and trust and know you'll be there for them when they need you so 'they don't cry" too much. The neglected baby who is left to cry learns TO CRY to get what they need and want.,and turns into a whining child instead of a kid who will ask for what they want.
This is a fact. I tell all my parents to be there at there beck and call and they will learn to trust you when they call-you will come.By the time my babies were 6 months old and younger I could go the whole ten hour shift without any crying..oh a grunt or a wimper when they needed me, of course if something was wrong with them, they cried. But this was rare. If you have their food and bottles ready and change them right away when they poop..they have no reason to cry and so they don't.And cuddle when they need it, all babies need cuddling and cooing. talk to your baby and you'll have a baby who talks.
trust and love go hand in hand rasing children, they have to learn to trust us enough to depend on us.
Friday, January 28, 2011
Friday, January 21, 2011
the horrified nanny
I;m not sure how to blog...
Right now I am not working as the parents of the wonder baby girl, Virginia, can no longer afford to pay me as the dad is still not working after 6 months of unemployment. Even though they paid me less than I ever made before as a professional nanny, I took the job because I really needed it and they live up the street from me and the baby babbled to me and smiled from our 1 st meeting..always a sign for me. I miss her and try to see her now and than,the worst thing for me is she doesn't understand why I don't come everyday to play, feed and change her.
I've had jobs where i worked in a 17 room mansion on Park avenue for a wirch of a mother, I've worked for a huge salary with much time off and 4-5 hour working days and ten hour days for far less pay.
when i get the hang of this I'll try to go through it all one family at a time, from the rich insane bitch in the mansion to the tv reporter who drove me nuts with her carelessness. My longest position was for my precious Annabelle who will be 14 this March, I cared for her from the time she was 1 week old till she was almost 5, she lives in London now and I still stay in touch. She would introduce me as "my Patti" because thats who I was..my mommy, my daddy and my Patti.MUch more about Annabelle later on as I spent th most years with her at 68th Street and Park in NYc.
Right now I am not working as the parents of the wonder baby girl, Virginia, can no longer afford to pay me as the dad is still not working after 6 months of unemployment. Even though they paid me less than I ever made before as a professional nanny, I took the job because I really needed it and they live up the street from me and the baby babbled to me and smiled from our 1 st meeting..always a sign for me. I miss her and try to see her now and than,the worst thing for me is she doesn't understand why I don't come everyday to play, feed and change her.
I've had jobs where i worked in a 17 room mansion on Park avenue for a wirch of a mother, I've worked for a huge salary with much time off and 4-5 hour working days and ten hour days for far less pay.
when i get the hang of this I'll try to go through it all one family at a time, from the rich insane bitch in the mansion to the tv reporter who drove me nuts with her carelessness. My longest position was for my precious Annabelle who will be 14 this March, I cared for her from the time she was 1 week old till she was almost 5, she lives in London now and I still stay in touch. She would introduce me as "my Patti" because thats who I was..my mommy, my daddy and my Patti.MUch more about Annabelle later on as I spent th most years with her at 68th Street and Park in NYc.
Thursday, January 20, 2011
the horrified nanny
Perhaps HORRIFIED NANNY is too overstated but at times, i have been just that in the past few years.
I have been a nanny for over 20 years and the changes in parents through the years is dramatic.
When I started many years ago one went to an agency if they qualified to care for children and the agency did all the work matching parents to the nanny. It worked very well for me and I have worked for several wonderful families and a few "nuts". Today I find my jobs on CRAIGSLIST because thats the way it's done. Unfortunately the so called nanny's who found their way to agencies now list on craigslist.
In the day, agencies would put ads in the Times to get prospective woman to apply. The sad thing was 99% of ther applicants were not qualified to care for themselves and so the agency did their job weeding out the capable from the rest.
I have worked for the super rich and the struggling parents, from my expeerience, the struggling parents were truly the richest employer in every way that money cannot buy as the wealthy parent lacked the respect, love and kindness needed in all relationships;
Perhaps I should explain how I came to be a nanny. I have 3 wonderful grown children, my eldest daughter worked for a high profile entertainment lawyer who from time to time ask me to sit for a client who needed childcare while in New York. When ric Clapton's son fell out of a 35th floor window due to neglect, I decided to make a difference in some childs life. My youngest child had moved out on her own and I realized caring for others was my 'gift" and I love and respect babies. So I took myself to a top nanny agency and started my career as a professional nanny.I consider myself fortunate to get paid to love and care for somebody and I loved all the babies I helped on the road to life and still do. I stasy in touch with as many of them as I can as they are scattered all over the world now. As time goes by I will write about the extraordinary babies I have known and the wonderful children they have turned out to be.
I have been a nanny for over 20 years and the changes in parents through the years is dramatic.
When I started many years ago one went to an agency if they qualified to care for children and the agency did all the work matching parents to the nanny. It worked very well for me and I have worked for several wonderful families and a few "nuts". Today I find my jobs on CRAIGSLIST because thats the way it's done. Unfortunately the so called nanny's who found their way to agencies now list on craigslist.
In the day, agencies would put ads in the Times to get prospective woman to apply. The sad thing was 99% of ther applicants were not qualified to care for themselves and so the agency did their job weeding out the capable from the rest.
I have worked for the super rich and the struggling parents, from my expeerience, the struggling parents were truly the richest employer in every way that money cannot buy as the wealthy parent lacked the respect, love and kindness needed in all relationships;
Perhaps I should explain how I came to be a nanny. I have 3 wonderful grown children, my eldest daughter worked for a high profile entertainment lawyer who from time to time ask me to sit for a client who needed childcare while in New York. When ric Clapton's son fell out of a 35th floor window due to neglect, I decided to make a difference in some childs life. My youngest child had moved out on her own and I realized caring for others was my 'gift" and I love and respect babies. So I took myself to a top nanny agency and started my career as a professional nanny.I consider myself fortunate to get paid to love and care for somebody and I loved all the babies I helped on the road to life and still do. I stasy in touch with as many of them as I can as they are scattered all over the world now. As time goes by I will write about the extraordinary babies I have known and the wonderful children they have turned out to be.
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